Resilience Over Revenge...Learning How to Face & Overcome Obstacles Gracefully

It took me a long time to figure out that revenge is for the weak and that resilience is a sign of strength. I used to be the type of person that would seek revenge whenever I was mistreated. It was the only way I felt that the wrong could be made right.

Over the years I watched my mother experience many forms of mistreatment, but she never sought revenge. She was resilient. She was such a great example of how a mature woman faces adversity and works hard to be an overcomer.

As I matured and healed a lot of broken pieces of my heart, I too discovered the power of being resilient.

This was tested just a few weeks ago when I was participating in a group book project. After I confronted a form of disrespect, the day before our "group book" was to go live online, I was informed that my chapter would no longer be included in the book.

This was devastating to me because I never sought out to be an author because of some passion I had, but I was seeking to serve a greater good and complete incomplete missions my mother wanted to complete but did not because she passed away unexpectedly. I was participating in this project in order to honor my mother's legacy. Since she didn't achieve becoming an author, I would, in her honor.

With the click of a button, that accomplishment was snuffed out, taken, gone. The old me would have directed my rage towards my offender and would have been relentless in my pursuit for "justice".

I thought about the fact that becoming an author was never about me.

From the moment my mom passed away -- moving forward, I made a commitment to align my behavior with actions that would honor my mother.

Revenge would NEVER have been something my mother would have been proud of. Resilience ....yes.

As soon as I shifted my energy and aligned my actions to those of a resilient nature, things quickly began to fall into place.

I reached out to several established authors that I knew would help me complete my mission. During this time, I decided to also write a bit more for my new book.

I was in a position to publish my very own book! Yes, my own book ; designed just the way I wanted with many elements I would never have had a say-so about when I was participating in the co-author (group book) project.

Huge things such as writing a dedication, acknowledgments, a foreward and even including pictures were not an option with the co-author project but were now aspects that I had complete control over as the author of my own book.

Not to mention that I was not going to collect any royalties from the group book, but now, I am set to collect what's rightfully mine for my work.

When I set my mind to do what was right and honorable, everything started to fall into place. It was very divine as if this was the way things were supposed to be. Writing my story in my own book is the vessel I'm supposed to use to share my story.

In this situation, what was meant for evil, God used for the good! I will have the victory! I will build a castle with the stones thrown at me, and you can too!

Choose resilience over revenge. The reward in the end for simply "moving forward" will be so much sweeter.

I sleep well at night knowing that I'm moving in the steps ordered by the divine light and that because of this, I will not fail. I am also, honoring my mother.

Look out for my new book called:

30 Days. Surviving the Trauma and Loss of a Single Parent as an Only Child.

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